here is something i recieved as a forward.
i liked it and thot i could share it here....
A very valuable lesson to learn ...
Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?'In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% ofwhat you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT inyour relationship. There is always another person (man or women) thatyou will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lackingin your relationship that you WANT and believe me, 20% looks reallygood when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get somethingbetter with the other 20% that you WANTBut as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up withhaving the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEEDand that you already had.Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow,this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Riderfeatures that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's alsounderstanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse isnot'
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be morecharming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Havegreater sex appeal.. And you will find a woman or man who will needyou and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse everdid.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husbandor wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholicby nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laughno matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ...'
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smellingof garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young salesrepresentative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, highheels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiettype, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flamewho has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.
Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!
That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents allthe years that you have been with each other. The storms you haveweathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as acouple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. Thewealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.
But I'm not just talking about marriage.
I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.About your friends.About your children.About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeksthrough the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he'smissing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served inporcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've gotpersonal videos!'
I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live yourlife like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Doyou know that there are many first class passengers who are miserablein first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are,you are first class!